Are You Choosing To Allow Life to Unfold With Ease?
How much of what we create in life comes from our planning versus choosing to allow life to unfold? What I have found is that both are necessary in order for us to create our best lives. However, it’s not always easy to give up control, especially for us type A personalities. When we are able to balance planning and allowing, success often arrives much faster than expected!
Start with Gratitude
Take a moment every day to give thanks for all of the wonderful things that are unfolding around you: whether it’s seeing flowers bloom or getting an unexpected client or sale. Notice of all of the things that happen without your input or thought. These are the moments when we allow life to unfold and we are often surprised and delighted.
According to Dr. Wayne Dyer, “You have to just be. You have to let go. You have to allow. You have to be free and make this your consciousness.”
What do I do if I’m a planner?
This is something I can relate to. I am definitely a planner and in fact, there are times when I create more success when I plan my week, month, quarter and year. However over the past few years I’ve learned to set goals, plan out my life and then let go. Being able to remain unattached to the outcome of a goal we have set is not easy. Especially when it’s a big, life changing goal.
One of the things I struggle with the most is that when I set my mind to a BIG goal, I want to control all of the details. And what I’ve learned from my mentors is that my role is to keep my eye on the BIG picture and allow the Universe or God to focus on the details. This is a lesson that keeps returning in my life. Have you ever found that if you haven’t yet gained the wisdom you need, a certain lesson shows up again and again?
Allowing for divine timing is the key.
When we have faith in God, The Universe or a power that is greater than ourselves, it’s so much easier to allow things to unfold in our lives. The question is where in your life are you holding on too tightly? What goals have been elusive for you? Where do you find yourself frustrated or disappointed right now?
First, I encourage you to be at peace with exactly where you are in your journey right now. You are exactly where you are meant to be.
Next, here are a few strategies to help you to plan first and then allow life to unfold:
Step 1: Create a plan. Write down your goal, on paper and give it a deadline. A deadline should have some element of reality, yet at the same time feel uncomfortable. Working on a timeline of 12 – 18 months is good. One of my mentors suggested that you keep your goals to yourself. For some of us, that’s the best strategy. After writing them down, put them aside and give them space. I shared how I used this strategy to attract my perfect partner in a previous post.
Step 2: Let go of the plan. Read your goal out loud and after you’ve read it, say this: – ‘I accomplish this, or something even better, in perfect divine timing.’ This is the most difficult step to do. The ability to set goals, yet remain unattached to the results or outcome, is one of the hardest skills to learn. When we master this skill, we become masters of ourselves. And remember to keep the image of the BIG vision in your mind but let go of all of the details.
“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn
Step 3: Get to work. Start taking daily action towards your goal. It is our small daily habits that will lead us to success. As much as I love the Law of Attraction, the real key to this law often gets overlooked. The key is the hard work.
Here’s something interesting that I’ve noticed in my own business: when I focus on making calls, inviting to events and following-up for a concentrated period of time, amazing things happen. What’s really interesting is that I receive completely unexpected gifts in my business. For example, I will have spent 60 – 90 minutes doing a power hour with no results, and then seemingly out of nowhere, I attract a new customer or two! The way I look at it is, I’ve done the work, and it’s not up to me how the results show up. They simply DO.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Step 4: Stop comparing yourself to others. This is what kills our goals and dreams. Since everything is unfolding in divine timing for you – remember that it’s also unfolding in divine timing for everyone else! We are a society that is rooted in competition and ‘survival of the fittest’ to quote Charles Darwin. Yet more recent research has shown that “we are more inclined toward peace than war, more wired for cooperative existence and mutual aid than competition.” – Gregg Braden.
When we stop comparing and choose to work together, success is almost guaranteed. And by removing comparison, it’s easier to allow life to unfold without forcing things to go one way or another, based on a path that someone else has carved out. We are unique, one of billions of humans on this planet – each with a different purpose and value. Yet we are all valuable and we are all capable of greatness. The choice we make to let go of not only our attachment to results but to comparison will truly set us free.
Step 5: Give thanks for every step on the way that helps you to get closer to manifesting your goal. When the unexpected shows up, recognize it and give thanks for it. No matter how big or small, acknowledge every gift. The more we are grateful, the more we will receive to be grateful for. It’s not only about material things either, perhaps we receive the gift of a wonderful new friend or time with a long-lost friend.
Are you ready to let go and allow life to unfold, to manifest greatness this week?
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