As I was looking at my new garden last night, I realized that it’s so much nicer than it was last year. But if you had asked me how I felt about my garden at the beginning of April, I would have told you that I was upset about it – because at that moment, I didn’t realize that I was still in the middle of the story. I’ll tell you the story below.
Gratitude Tip: Sometimes, when things aren’t going our way or when we are faced with challenges – big or small – we can get stuck in the middle and feel like there is no way out and no resolution. When we have faith that everything is unfolding exactly as it should, it’s easy to acknowledge that we are in the middle and that this too shall pass.
At the end of last year, the day before our trip to Florida, we had a sewer back up. This was the 4th or 5th since we’ve lived in our home (in 4 years). Thankfully, we haven’t finished the basement yet! There is a huge Weeping Willow tree in our complex and and it loves to draw water from our sewer line, so the line has been cleared several times. This time however, it was finally time to replace the sewer line.
Things to be grateful for: Being in a townhouse condo, we did not have to pay for any of this directly (we do through our condo fees). And that our basement was not finished and ruined.
To replace the line, they had to remove our fences (no privacy), and depending on what you had in your yard, remove gardens, patios and even part of our neighbour’s deck. We lost our garden and part of our patio. Not only did we not have an privacy for 5 months, we also had a mud pit in our yard. And on one very rainy day, we had another small flood in our basement due to a crack in the foundation. Let’s just say that while we were in the middle, I wasn’t very happy about it. I LOVED my garden the way that it was. We hadn’t really done anything with it since we moved in because it was full of perennials that simply showed up every spring.
Finally, at the beginning of May, our fences were replaced. And we noticed that some of our hostas had started to grow back. We lost all of our trees and peonies, but those hostas are so resilient! I started to have some hope. And once our fences were replaced, we were also given soil for our garden, which was great as we have fresh new top soil. We got a few donations from our neighbours and with a small gift card from the condo corp, purchased a few more flowers for pollinators. There isn’t enough sun in the back for food crops. As for our patio, we decided to remove all of the old stones on that half of the patio and expand our current patio (under the table) so that we’ll soon have one huge patio.
Here’s what I learned. When my garden was gone, I was sad. I actually found myself complaining about it and mourning the loss of something so beautiful. That was the middle. Instead of focusing on what could be created once the fences were back in, I was focused on what we had before, even though it was never coming back. Once I shifted and focused on what to do in the new situation, things seems to fall into place and work out even better than they had before. Yes, I love my garden even more than I did before because now we’ve taken ownership of it. My husband did a lot of work (and he’s not done yet) to make it right and now I really feel like it’s ours. Out of something that really bothered me, something even better came along.
Ask yourself right now, what am I in the middle of? Recognize and acknowledge that feeling. And then focus on your faith and be open to the fact that when you get to the end, you might end up being in a more amazing place then you ever were before.