“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” – Ferris Bueller
One of my favorite movie quotes of all time, from Ferris Bueller’s Day Off. If you haven’t seen this classic teen flick, I highly recommend watching it over the holidays. I’ve been thinking about this quote lately since becoming a mom. I was flipping through the photos of Céline from the past few months and it’s amazing how much she has grown in such a short time. She’ll be 3 months just after Christmas, and will have basically doubled her birth weight. That’s pretty amazing if you ask me.
I’ve always been aware of how quickly life seems to move, and the phenomenon that as you get older, it seems to move even faster. Yet having a baby seems to speed up the process even more. When she was first born, it seems like the real hardships would last forever, but in truth, many of the biggest challenges last only a couple of weeks. Sure, they were replaced by other challenges, but at least things do change quickly with an infant. Many of you posted comments on my blog or on Facebook about how each challenge would pass and at the time, it seemed like it would never end, but you were right, and now we’re on to a whole new set of challenges.
Are we waiting to enjoy life?
One of the traps that many of us fall into is the waiting for things to better before really enjoying life. For example, as teenagers, we are often can’t wait to get out of high school and go to college or university. Then when we’re in college, we can’t wait to be finished and to get a REAL job. Of course, then when we get out of college, we can’t wait to meet the love of our lives and get married. And then, once we are married, we can’t wait to have children. And it goes on and on until we get to retirement – because when we’re working, we can’t wait til retirement, right? What happens then? Well, then we can’t wait until we die.
Take a closer look at your life right now, are you living life in the fast lane, going too quickly to even notice the world around you? Are you waiting for the next big event to start enjoying your life? Do you take time to enjoy some of the moments in each and every day? Or do you wake up on Saturday morning and realize that a whole week went by and you barely noticed?
I believe one of the biggest gifts we receive when we have a child is that we do have to take time to slow down and live in the moment. A baby doesn’t have anything but moments in a day and we are forced to adapt to their schedule and their needs. And they also do a lot of really cute things, like smile and make funny sounds, so you can’t help but watch them and listen to them. I read somewhere that one of the reasons that babies make our lives so challenges and disrupt our schedules so much is that we notice them, and that we do make room for them in our lives. It is true that once you have a child, your life is never the same again.
So whether you have kids or not, take a few moments this week to enjoy being in the moment. Whether you’re commuting and stuck in traffic, or battling the crowds at the mall, or trying to calm a crying baby – remember to slow down, take a breath and enjoy. Because once that moment is gone, it’s gone for good.