Make New Friends
I’ve arrived in Vancouver to visit my sister and her family for the third time this year. I am so grateful to be able to fly across the country in a few hours and be with them. I had a lot of fun yesterday making new friends as I traveled here.
Gratitude Tip: Making new friends is a life skill. It doesn’t matter whether you are in business or not, connecting with new people is a skill that can be learned and that is essential for everyone. Think of it this way, you never know when someone you meet will enrich your life or vice versa. Find gratitude in the opportunity to make new friends every single day.
You’re probably thinking, oh it’s easy for you, you’re an extrovert and you love to talk. True, I am a situational extrovert and yes I do love to talk, but there may times when I prefer being introverted. I covert my personal space and time alone. It took me years to hone the skill of making new friends every where I go, it didn’t just happen naturally.
We are raised to believe that talking to strangers in not a good thing. And I am teaching my daughter that talking to strangers when mommy or daddy is not with her is a dangerous thing. At 5 years old, she loves to make new friends at the park, at the library, wherever we go. She always asks me first if she can go play with another child and then she’ll ask them to play with her. I continue to encourage this behaviour as I want her to grow up as an adult who is comfortable making new friends. She sees me do it all of the time as well.
What sets you apart? What is a point of connection that you may have with others that most do not? For me, being bilingual is a part of making new connections quickly. I am fluent in both French and English and when I recognize a French accent, I will often switch to speaking French and we’ve quickly made a more lasting connection. Yesterday I met a lovely woman in line to check in for my flight, I noticed that she was travelling on the same flight to Vancouver and simply said hello, looks like we’re on the same flight. We ended up chatting for the next hour before we boarded. I also connected with the flight crew, who coincidentally were all French speaking and from Quebec & Montreal. Yes, most Canadian flight attendants are bilingual but it’s unusual to have a flight from Toronto to Vancouver where everyone’s first language is French. I had a great time making new friends yesterday!
Did I have work to do? Yes. Would it have been easier to stay in my seat and just watch TV the whole time on the plane? Sure. But I’m grateful to have made new connections and it made my day even brighten to meet and connect with great people. Today, I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone just a little bit and make a new friend. Who knows where that relationship may go?