You put it out there, your BHAG (Big, Hairy Audacious Goal) and you failed. What happens now?Speaking from experience, there is a lot that can be learned as you regroup and decide on one of two things: Do you need to adjust my goal? Or do I simply need more time to accomplish it?
A few weeks ago, I attempted a very big stretch goal in my business. Basically, I was aiming to grow my team sales volume by an additional 50% a week, for four weeks straight. Pretty ridiculous goal, right? I had just come back from a 3 day leadership seminar in Las Vegas and one of the days we had training with Eric Worre, of NetworkMarketingPro.com, the leading trainer in our profession. And one of the things he taught us about is that ‘Visionaries set major goals, and they are LOUD about it.’ You had me at LOUD. Even though I had just completed a major 13 week goal a week earlier, I decided to go for another Rank Advancement (that’s what we call it when you advance to a new income level) that would take only 4 weeks instead. But I needed an additional 50% growth over those four weeks.
I was loud about it. I even posted my vision board on social media. I had buy in from my team and my leadership. I had support from around the globe. I worked harder than I have in a very long time. And at 11:30 pm EST on the Friday night, I realized that there was no way to reach my goal without compromising who I am as a leader. And so, I decided to let it go. This was not an easy decision, as my team was also very involved and they had also been working very hard to help me get there.
Here’s what I learned from the experience:
First, I found out how hard I was willing to work. But then paid the price by feeling burnt out the week after. I have always had the intention to complete my goal with balance in my family life and that is not how I worked for that week. And my body did not agree with it either.
Lesson 1: No goal is worth sacrificing your health or your family for even a very short period of time.
Second, I learned that your attitude determines your results. Every time. Energetically, until 11:30 pm on Friday night, I felt I had already accomplished my goal and nothing was shaking that. Yet, ultimately, something did.
Lesson 2: Use affirmations throughout the day, most importantly first thing in the morning and before you go to sleep. Make sure you are only watching and listening to things that are positive and uplifting.
Third, sometimes, the timing just isn’t right. I had just finished accomplishing a goal that took 13 weeks. And my team had been involved for the last three weeks. We worked together to make that first goal happen. My thinking was that we should continue with the momentum that we have built.
Lesson 3: You are not always in control of when is the best time to achieve your goal. Leave that part to a higher power. It doesn’t mean that ‘all your ducks have to be in a row’ before you start. It simply means that sometime your timing and divine timing aren’t aligned just yet. It’s true that sometimes the best things comes to those who wait. And by waiting, it may end up being so much easier to accomplish your goal.
Finally, a goal this big requires a big team. And although I knew on some level that I couldn’t do this alone, I didn’t realize how much I would need the team to be a part of it. What I discovered was who was willing to step up into leadership, who was motivated by an external goal and who could not be motivated to take action regardless of how big or audacious the goal is.
Lesson 4: Know your team. Lead by example and show your team that you are willing to get down into the trenches with them and do the work that is necessary to reach your goal. You should also be the one who creates the most results, don’t rely on your team to do it for you. And by challenging and stretching your team members, you’re giving them the gift of growth and leadership development at the same time.
So what to do now? For the time being, it’s back to building and growing our team until we are all ready and have grown enough to reach the next level. I’ve decide to keep my goal in front of me and adjust the time frame. Do I feel like I have failed? Not at all. Because unless I make the decision to quit, I will continue to fail forward (as John Maxwell puts it) until I reach this goal.
If you’re a sharp, ambition person who is a passionate about health, nutrition and wellness, take a look at my mentorship program. The application can be filled out online and I’ll make room for you to join us in the next 30 days. Wouldn’t it be fun to be a part of the team that reaches this goal together?