Ever find that when you or someone you know is going through a major (or sometimes minor) change, this tends to bring on a great deal of stress? What is about CHANGE that is so frightening to us?
I would have to say that my life is defined by change more than anything. Taking a closer look at my resume, since I began my career after university I have had at least 10 different jobs and 3 different businesses (although 2 are still current). I’ve also lived in 4 different countries and at least 8 different cities. All of this in 12 years!!! And almost every time I was about to make a change, I found my stress levels rising – both with positive and negative stress. Many of you have likely found yourself in a similar situation over the past year or two.
Here are some of the biggest and scariest CHANGES we may deal with in our lives:
- Getting married
- Getting separated and divorced
- Moving to a new town, city or country
- Having children
- Starting a new job
- Quitting or losing a job
- Starting a new business
- Letting go of an existing business
- The loss of a loved one
- A major health scare
The most interesting thing that I have found in my own life, and from observations of those around me, is that even though a change might seem like a negative or stressful event at the time, with perspective and distance, it turns out that the change was really for the best and everything turned out in the end.
For example, I have a friend who has moved several times in the past ten years with her family and now lives across the country. At the time of this most recent move, there was stress and anxiety about being so far away from family and friends. Now, many years later, they have developed a wonderful community there and this has become their home. Another friend of mine just dealt with a major health scare and even though it is still a very serious matter, this friend has already seen positive changes come from this experience.
You may be wondering why I put getting married at the top of the list – this can only be a positive change, right? Getting married and planning a wedding is one of the most stressful situations in life, even though it may be a good kind of stress. It is one of the biggest life changes for most people (of those who do get married), perhaps second only to having children. No wonder brides get so stressed out! Not only is there the pressure to have a fairytale wedding they have always dreamed of, but there are also many factors to worry about such at budget, the bride’s family, the groom’s family, the location, who to invite, who not to invite, etc. I have been sharing some of this stress with my sister who is getting married next summer. I am forever grateful that Dan and I had a small, non-traditional wedding that was planned in 3 months. It was easy to keep the guest list short when the room only held 40!
So, what can we do to deal with change more easily? A few tips that help me once in a while include:
- Keeping perspective
- Remembering other major life changes and realizing that they turned out for the best
- Talking to friends and family about any fears or doubts
- Knowing that change is the only constant in life and that change is what makes life interesting!
The question of the day is, are you going through a major life change right now? What strategies have you been using the get through it? Please share with us in the comments.
Have a wonderful day everyone! P.S. Although the blog does say Your Daily Dose – I will only be posting when I have something of value to post about, as opposed to filling your inbox everyday regardless.