Why Put Forgiveness On The Menu
Yesterday we attended my husband’s family New Years Day dinner. Last year we did not, even though we were in town. Our family Christmas dinner ended up being a bit of a disaster last year so we chose not to attend the traditional family get together the following week.
Gratitude Tip: Where in your life is a lack of forgiveness holding you back? Forgiveness can be a difficult gift to give. When we realize that forgiveness is not about the other person, it becomes easier to forgive.
What I haven’t shared before is that the catalyst for our family trip to Florida this Christmas was that we didn’t want to be in town for the holidays in 2015. We booked our trip boxing day of 2014, from a place of frustration and anger. I’m not proud of this. Thankfully after a year has passed, the anger and frustration I felt that day and for a few weeks after has long since faded. And our family trip turned out to be an amazing way for our little family to spend Christmas together.
The last step of letting go was being able to forgive those involved in the incident last year. Attending the traditional family New Year’s Day dinner was the first and most important step. Before we left for our vacation, I wasn’t sure that I could do it. I thought I had forgiven, but deep down, I hadn’t. This is something I thought about often while reflecting on 2015. And I quickly realized that repairing the relationship with my husband’s family had to be a priority for 2016.
We went to dinner, as a family, and were greeted with kindness and love. I focused on living up to my blog and what I write about, especially creating more love in our lives this year 2016. It was the first step. And it feels good for me to let go and forgive.
As I mentioned above, forgiveness is not about the other person, it is about ourselves. Often we wait until we receive an apology to forgive. What is most important to realize is that an apology is not required for forgiveness. This was a difficult lesson that I needed to learn. Forgiveness is about being able to let go and love no matter what the other person has done. If you’re a Christian, this is central to the teachings of Jesus. If you’re not, energetically it’s not serving you or anyone else to carry around anger, blame or resentment as they are all on the downward spiral of emotional energy.
Who do you need to forgive today? Yes, today. I encourage you to take some time right now to let go of any anger or resentment you are holding towards another human being. A great exercise that can help with this is to write a letter to them, getting all of your feelings out on paper and then instead of sending it, tear it up or burn it. Let me know how you feel after you’ve done this.